Being true to yourself… The importance of saying “No”…
If you are one of those that struggles to say “No”, you more than likely are making your life and the lives of those about you just a little more difficult than you probably would like to…
You end up doing everything that you actually are trying to avoid for the simple reason that you ‘compromise’ too much…
Most of us say ‘Yes’ to everything because we do not want to displease the other person… or because of the fear of being perceived as rude, selfish or uncaring… or may be because we care a little too much and do not mind stretching ourselves just that little bit more…
What actually happens is… you end up committing yourself to things that you cannot fulfill… you end up juggling too many balls… you end up signing up to failure… or may be entangling yourself in a really uncomfortable situation…
And that does not serve anybody well… especially you and many times even those that you really care to please…
Refusal is not necessarily rejection!!! It does not make you seem beneath yourself in any measure…
In fact, the ability to say ‘No’ at a time when it is necessary could be seen as a sign of self-esteem and self-confidence… it delivers a message that you have the level headedness to know what you are able to sign up to and what you cannot take on in relation to all your other engagements… If said in the appropriate manner, it conveys respect and the ability to balance priorities…
It is important however, that you have the maturity and sincerity to say ‘No’ only when you have to!
Be honest with yourself… Keep expectations clear!!!
It will earn you respect and make you an instrument of success that you really are trying to be…
