Gating criterion
“Skepticism is the chastity of the intellect”. Draw therefore, circles around you, that your countenance stays protected! And the ones that make it into each circle must stand the one gating criterion that you have defined for that circle.
For the circle of trust, use honesty.
For productivity, there is spirit.
For achievement, there is persistence.
For excellence, there is track record.
For association, there is integrity.
For fun, there is good-health.
For solace, there is purity.
Fail that one gate, and no matter what you think of that person, he does not belong in that circle.
Have you drawn your circles? What are your gates?