Its willingness that makes a Conversation Communication….
“We need to talk”…. “We are not having a conversation”…. “We are not communicating”
Each time you say or hear someone say any of these, there is probably a situation that needs improvement.
Assuming both the parties are willing to having the conversation, communication is likely and the situation will invariably improve.
If however, one are both are not willing, conversation is futile as there is no communication.
What could be worse is the “You listen to what I am telling you” attitude… where one or both parties are willing to have a conversation, only to give the other a piece of their mind… Communication is still taking place, but it cannot exactly be deemed constructive.
Willingness is key for a conversation to lead to communication.
You can spend years with someone trying to communicate… to bond! You can continue so long as you are willing to and are hoping for the other also to become willing.
On the other hand, two reasonable individuals can bond transcending conversations, for communication then is with the most powerful of human endowments, viz-a-viz, ‘will’.
The next time you want to communicate, think first if you and the other party are willing! Else, why waste your time?
