Operate from a position of strength
If you find yourself acting or deciding a certain way, contrary to how you would like to act or decide, you are playing on the defensive. You are feeling weak!
No weak person operating on the defensive has ever been able to create impact!
It might not always be easy; it may not always seem possible. But, decide and act like you would on your best day in the strongest phase of your life. You will find your strength shortly.