Calm in anger

calm in anger

Everyone gets angry! It is a very normal human emotion. More importantly, anger can be a trait that can be used for a constructive purpose; it is a tool that should be used purposefully, with focus and in the right proportion.

Consider the times and the things that make you angry.

If your anger is an involuntary reaction to something that I have said or done, I control you! Your peace is my slave!

This type of a reactive anger is almost always destructive!

If however, you choose whether or not you get angry, you are in control! Your peace is not disturbed. You are calm and in control.

Your anger then is a trait in your tool basket that you use to your advantage. And you use it as leverage to determine the outcome.

And who controls your anger, whether you or someone else, depends on where your focus lies.

If your focus is your goal, anger becomes a tool in situations where you need the others to work towards accomplishing that outcome. They fall short, and you have to determine the best way to make it happen regardless. Your focus is the goal! You will stay in control. You will stay calm; for you know that, that is the only way you can achieve what you need to. Anger in this case is constructive.

If your focus is a specific person, you have most definitely surrendered your inner peace and calm to him. He gives you what you want out of his benevolence or compulsion, and you have your peace. He doesn’t, and you are angry.

The difference is subtle. But this difference determines how you lead your life.

Stay calm in anger. How you get there is by maintaining your focus on what matters. And in the end, all that matters is what you must achieve!