You know if you are being fair….
Be fair and you will at a minimum, not be unhappy!
In a relationship:
If both are fair, there is joy….
If both are unfair, there will be definite adversity… The more the adversity, the greater the time, energy and money lost…. Both will come out bruised!
If only one is fair, it’s a relationship headed for a slow end, but there may be little obvious friction.
The one that is fair will atleast not be unhappy for his self-view will have risen and he would have grown to do better the next time!
The unfair one, will reap what he has sown sooner or later. He will either keep feeling guilty until then, or will keep reeling in his immaturity until he grows….
Any which way you look at it, be fair… for you are only losing by being unfair.
It may not always be obvious whether or not you are being unfair, after all, you are wired to think of yourself highly. It is important therefore, to ask yourself every step of your life, through every interaction, transaction and relationship…. Am I playing fair? How will I be judged for this episode of my life???
If you are smart, honest, unbiased and matured…. you will know!!!